When the Person Comes to You With a Problem
They come to you because you are who they see, and half of what they bring is not yours to resolve.
Day-to-day direction
Any employment obligation to the person
Promising the person anything about their job
Being the person's employer
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They come to you because you are who they see every day. Half of what they bring is yours to resolve and half of it belongs to an employer that is not you, and the two halves arrive in the same conversation.
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The two piles
Work problems: priorities, workload, a colleague, a tool, a decision, a lack of direction. Employment problems: pay, a payslip, leave, a contract, a benefit, something the provider has done or not done.
The first pile is entirely yours. The second you can help with and cannot decide.
The ones that look like both
A workload complaint that is really about unpaid overtime. A request for time off that is really a question about statutory leave. A grievance about a colleague that engages an employer's duty.
These are the ones worth slowing down on. Treating an employment question as a work question is how managers accidentally make decisions they do not have.
What to say in the moment
That part I can sort out. That part sits with your employer, and I'll help you get an answer from them. Let me find out and come back to you by Thursday.
Honest, immediate, splits the problem, and commits you to an action rather than an outcome.
What not to say
That you will fix it, where fixing it is not yours. That the provider is useless, however tempting. That you do not deal with that, which abandons somebody who has nowhere else obvious to go.
The third is the most damaging and the easiest to say by accident while busy.
Helping without taking over
Make the introduction, send the question yourself if the person would rather, chase it if it goes quiet, and tell them what you have done.
None of that makes you the employer. All of it is what a decent client does for somebody working alongside their team, and it is the difference between an arrangement that feels supported and one that feels administrative.
Where you must not get involved
A grievance about discrimination, harassment or safety, and anything the person describes as formal. Those engage an employer's legal obligations and a process you are not part of.
Help them reach the right person at the provider, record that you did, and step back. Investigating it yourself can damage a process the person is entitled to.
Where the complaint is about you
Awkward and not rare. Their employer has no authority over you, and your company's own grievance route does not formally cover them.
Say plainly that they may raise it with their employer, that you will not hold it against them, and that your own company will take it seriously through whatever route exists. Then make sure that is true.
The questions nobody can answer quickly
Tax treatment, pension options, how a benefit works locally. The person asks you because you are there; you will not know; the provider does.
Routing these promptly rather than guessing is worth saying out loud as a rule, because a confident wrong answer about somebody's tax is a bad outcome for everybody.
Keeping a short record
What was raised, what you did, what the provider said, and when. Three lines in a note.
Not a file on the person. A record of your own actions, which is what you will need if the matter recurs or if you hand the relationship on.
It also shows a pattern. Three unanswered queries in a quarter is a service issue to raise with the provider; one is a bad week.
The problem they do not raise
Feeling peripheral. People rarely bring that as a problem; they bring it as a resignation, nine months later, framed as a better offer.
Asking directly and periodically — how does working with us actually feel from where you sit — is the only reliable way to hear it in time.
Setting the expectation early
In the first week, tell them: bring me anything about the work, bring me anything about the provider and I will help you get an answer, raise anything formal with your employer and tell me you have.
Said once, at the start, it saves a great deal of improvisation later.
What you cannot resolve for them
A decision their employer makes that you disagree with. The provider may decline a request, apply a local rule you find harsh, or run a process in a way you would not have chosen.
You can argue it as a customer and sometimes that works. What you cannot do is overturn it, and telling the person you will is the one move in this whole area that reliably makes things worse for them.